“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”

Dolly Parton

Listen. I get it.

There are a million things to do at any given time. 

Coaching, discovery calls, clarity calls… responding to DMs and comments. Nurturing your current clients, while nurturing potential clients. 

But I want to remind you of why you started. 

Chances are like me, you decided to take this road less traveled…. Trading the 9-5 for time freedom.

Only to find that you’ve traded a 9-5 for a 4 am-10 pm. Or a 6 am-8 pm. 

Breathe, friend.

Most things can wait. And it has to wait… because what they say about time is true… you can never get that time back. 

Your business is not your life.

I’m going to repeat that one again… your business is not your life.

Your business is one aspect of your life.

It’s your baby… you love what you do. I know, because I LOVE my business– I love serving and helping my clients to ten x their current income while building a business that they love that works for their life and not the other way around. And like you, I’m phenomenal at what I do. 

And like, you. I’m also prone to missing it.

By the “it” I mean life– the humans entrusted in my care, time with my husband, and even making time for family and friends… because it’s easy to allow what you love doing to consume you.

I had a client shared this with me last week: “when I’m not working I feel like I’m not doing what I should be doing. And it’s hard to relax, but I’m trying.”

I’ll be digging deeper with her on this, but wanted to share some tips to help you work through this yourself if it’s an area of struggle for you:

If you have a hard time relaxing:

And find your mind drifting to business tasks when you’re in the middle of a conversation with your partner, or playing with your children– learn to fully immerse yourself in the experience.

You can actively work to flex this muscle, by being mindful– fully aware of what’s in front of you.

The next time you sit down to have lunch, allow yourself to savor the experience. Without your phone. Bring your awareness to the sensations of the meal you’re consuming.

You can even do this while brushing your teeth or going on a walk (without earbuds on). 

Why do I suggest you do this outside of the scenario with your partner or children? Because there’s no guilt attached to it. 

You’re not going to feel guilty if you experience difficulty with doing any of the exercises I listed above. It’s simply a muscle you have to flex, but guilt can easily creep in if you’re with your children and your mind drifts to your business, and you try to remain present with them and find your mind stuck on work-related tasks. 

When you’re with others and find it hard to detach from work:

If an idea comes up for you, excuse yourself, and go into a bathroom or another space so you can type it in your notes app. Take a few deep breaths, and carry a mantra with you: “I am worthy of having fun.” “I am worthy of having an intimate experience with my partner.” “I am worthy of enjoying my time with my children.” You can also take a mental pause, and shift your focus back on the person in front of you. 

As you continue to flex your mindful muscle, it will become easier as your practice. 

Here’s to building a coaching business that works for your life and not the other way around… and making (as one of my clients likes to say) lots & lots of money doing it.

XOXO Michelle