Coaching vs. Listening: How to Guide Friends Without Overstepping


It’s always fascinating when life presents us with opportunities to wear different hats within our relationships. One such role is that of the coach – a person who helps guide others towards personal growth and achievement. But what happens when the line between being a coach and being a friend blurs? How do we navigate this terrain without overstepping boundaries?

In a recent heart-to-heart with an incredible spiritual life coach, we delved deep into this very subject. She expressed her struggle between offering her coaching expertise to friends and preserving the sanctity of friendship. Intriguingly, she also shared experiencing physical tension in her throat when she found herself holding back valuable advice.

Does this resonate with you? If so, here are a few spiritual nuggets to help you dance this delicate dance and deal with any physical symptoms that may arise.

Speak with Love: The Power of Permission

Before you step into your coaching shoes, ask your friend if they’re open to some guidance. This simple act of kindness can create a safe space for both of you and prevent any misunderstanding. When they feel respected and cared for, they are more likely to welcome your insights.

The Power of Presence: More Than Words

Friends, often, aren’t looking for solutions – they crave to be seen, heard, and have their feelings acknowledged. This is when you need to tap into the power of your presence. Listen empathetically, let them vent, and give them the comfort of knowing that they’re not alone.

Embrace Your Voice: Releasing Tension Through Throat Chakra Balancing

This beautiful spiritual coach mention of the tension in her throat struck me as a signal of a blocked Throat Chakra. The Throat Chakra, in yogic and spiritual beliefs, governs communication and self-expression. When it’s blocked or imbalanced, it can lead to feelings of insecurity and introversion, even physical symptoms like throat tension.

Here are some practices to help you freely express your truth:

Throat Chakra Yoga Poses: Certain yoga poses can stimulate the Throat Chakra, including the Fish Pose (Matsyasana), Plow Pose (Halasana), and Shoulder Stand (Sarvangasana).

Breathing Exercises (Pranayama): The Ujjayi Pranayama, also known as Ocean Breath, can help stimulate the throat area and promote a sense of peace and clarity.

Chanting/Singing: Chanting the mantra for the Throat Chakra (“HAM”) or simply singing can help clear and balance your Throat Chakra.

Affirmations: Phrases such as “I speak my truth with clarity” or “I express myself freely and authentically” can be incredibly powerful for Throat Chakra healing.

Blue Light Visualization: Imagine a blue light at your throat while meditating. Visualize this light growing brighter with each breath, symbolizing the opening and balancing of the Throat Chakra.

Hydration and Diet: Consuming plenty of water and herbal teas.


Navigating the thin line between coaching friends and preserving friendships can be challenging but enlightening. Remember, by asking for permission and offering a supportive presence, you’re already on the right path. And should you ever experience tension like this beautiful spiritual coach, embrace your voice, and explore the practices shared above. They are your allies in expressing your truth freely and authentically.

Do you have thoughts to share or questions about the concepts we’ve discussed? We would love to hear from you in the comments section below.

Keep shining your light!

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